When we were younger, I’m sure most of you have lots of friends. I do too. As we grow older, only a few remain friends. The others are mere kawan hi-hi bye-bye.

Sometimes you meet new friends, but you should not forget your old friends. This is a real story about someone in the office, I. I is in the IT department. She’s friends with two ladies from the Marketing Department. They used to go out to lunch together – the three of them. Sometimes they went shopping and accompany each other doing chores during lunch break. Sometimes they went swimming together after office hours and did other stuff like good friends always do.

Recently, a new colleague joined the IT department and she was so attached to this new colleague, A. She stopped contacting her colleagues in the Marketing Department. She goes out for lunch, shopping etc with this new colleague of hers. Her friends from the marketing department obviously terasa but never mentioned anything to her. One day, her newly found bestfriend went on leave for two weeks and out of the blue she started contacting her Marketing friends again.

She asked:

Her: “Ko pegi lunch mana hari ni?”

Old friend: “Aku bawak bekal je”

Her: “Ah, tak sudi nak lunch dengan aku”

WTF man? You totally ignored your friend for so long and on the day your new friend left you, you want to hangout with her again? Obviously her old friend would not just tell her off. But why do you have to make the last statement. Obviously she has her own plans. You know, even if she didn’t want to/couldn’t go out for lunch with you, why should you be such an ass and say things like that? It obviously hurts her more. Why are you putting the blame on her? Obviously you’re at wrong. Bangang ok orang macam ni. The conversation went on with the girl creating stories and blaming her old friend. Haisshh..

My advice is, if you like your new friend. Fine, be friends with her. But don’t totally ignore/forget your old friends. You can always go out for lunch with your new friend and old friends. Introduce your new friend to your old friends, you prolly can bring them out for lunch together. If you don’t want to, take turns. Let either of them know that today you wanna go out with your other group of friends. I’m sure your friends would understand.

Ada jugak orang macam ni…

(you’ll meet a lot of weird people when you start working)

Make new friends, but keep the old!

Make new friends, but keep the old! (source: http://fourstarters.com)